One stop shopping is as necessary in our dating lives as it is in our
society as a whole. Let me elaborate…
I am a firm believer that people only have so much innate ability to go
around. For example, a man that is an excellent listener might not be that
great in bed. A guy who is awesome in bed probably won’t help out around the
house. A woman who loves to cook may not be as inclined to go to a ball
game. Examples aside, everything in a relationship is a tradeoff.
You might be saying to yourself, “oh no X is so great! They can do
everything!”
Well, that’s kind of my point if you want a guy who can fix a car,
sympathize with you, be a sex god, and who cleans (insert other qualities
here) you are going to have a Wal-Mart guy. Chances are if you find all of
your checklist of qualities in one person they are going to be good at all
of them, but great at none. For example:
The best lay I ever had = total jackass emotionally.
The best sympathizer = completely useless unless the hug generator ceased
functioning on something. Oh wait, my bad, that’s still completely useless.
The point is the guys I mentioned above were like specialty stores. They
were amazing at what they did, but they didn’t carry groceries and tires if
you catch my drift.
Specialty store guys and gals are great for dating, but when you want to
settle down with someone you really want a Wal-Mart. They may not have the
best selection in town, but you can get enough of anything there to get
yourself through. Could you find better produce somewhere? Yes. Could you
get better tools somewhere? Hell yes. Can you get both of them in one spot
anywhere else? That isn’t as likely.
*Don’t discount your relationship because they aren’t the best at everything
in comparison to what you’ve had.* Sometimes the one-stop-shop ability to
get a hug, be listened to, have good sex, and watch the garbage whisked out
the door is much better than putting up with a whole bunch of deficient and
non-stock goods for that one specialty item.
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